<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" ><generator uri="https://jekyllrb.com/" version="3.10.0">Jekyll</generator><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/atom+xml" /><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" /><updated>2026-05-24T17:27:43+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/feed.xml</id><title type="html">Dexter Miller</title><subtitle>Thoughts on tech, faith, and fitness.</subtitle><entry><title type="html">Faith, Humility, and the Glory of the Cross</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/24/faith-humility-and-the-glory-of-the-cross/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Faith, Humility, and the Glory of the Cross" /><published>2026-05-24T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-24T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/24/faith-humility-and-the-glory-of-the-cross</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/24/faith-humility-and-the-glory-of-the-cross/"><![CDATA[<p>On a Memorial Day weekend Sunday, King’s Fire Church gathered for worship and a communion service centered on one of Christianity’s most countercultural claims: that true life is found not through self-reliance, but through surrender.</p>

<p>The morning’s message wove together themes of faith, humility, the nature of the gospel, and the meaning of Christ’s death and resurrection — anchored by a reading from John 17, Jesus’ prayer in the hours before his arrest.</p>

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<h2 id="believe-in-yourself--or-dont">“Believe in Yourself” — Or Don’t?</h2>

<p>The speaker opened with a pointed challenge to one of Western culture’s most celebrated ideas. “Who told you to believe in yourself?” he asked. The gospel of Jesus Christ, he argued, offers a fundamentally different message — one of self-denial rather than self-actualization. “If you loved your life and tried to save it, you would lose it,” he said, paraphrasing Jesus. “But if you lose your life for my sake and the gospel’s sake, you will find it.”</p>

<p>That framing set the tone for the rest of the message: salvation is not something you achieve. It is something you receive.</p>

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<h2 id="the-memorial-day-connection">The Memorial Day Connection</h2>

<p>Tying the message to the holiday weekend, the speaker noted that the self-sacrifice honored on Memorial Day — soldiers laying down their lives for their fellow citizens — mirrors, in some ways, the sacrifice at the center of the Christian faith. “It’s not natural to human beings,” he said of sacrifice, noting that evolutionary instinct pushes toward self-preservation, not self-giving. The willingness to give one’s life for others, he suggested, points to something beyond the merely human.</p>

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<h2 id="humility-as-the-door">Humility as the Door</h2>

<p>A recurring motif throughout the sermon was the idea that humility — not effort, not knowledge, not religious performance — is what opens a person to God’s grace.</p>

<p>“If you think you can do it by yourself, that’s the highest level of pride you can arrive at,” the speaker said. He drew from James 4, noting that “God gives grace to the humble and resists the proud.” The way into faith, he argued, is not a grand act but a quiet acknowledgment: <em>what I have tried and planned and calculated has not produced what I hoped.</em></p>

<p>He also referenced the story of Nicodemus — the prominent Jewish leader who came to Jesus by night — as an example of someone at the top of their world who still needed to be “born again” in the Spirit.</p>

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<h2 id="john-17-a-prayer-before-the-storm">John 17: A Prayer Before the Storm</h2>

<p>The primary Scripture text was John 17, Jesus’ extended prayer on the night of his betrayal. The speaker highlighted several moments from the passage, beginning with a simple but striking detail: Jesus <em>lifted his eyes to heaven</em> while praying — an upward posture, not the bowed-head, eyes-closed posture commonly taught.</p>

<p>“How many prayers do we pray where it’s all just down?” he reflected, suggesting that the heavenward gaze was itself a posture of trust and expectancy.</p>

<p>He then focused on Jesus’ declaration in verse 4 — “I have finished the work which you gave me to do” — made <em>before</em> the crucifixion, and his request: <em>“Now, Father, glorify me.”</em> The speaker dwelt on the paradox: what Jesus called “glorification” looked, from the outside, like torture and death. But Jesus was fixed on what lay just beyond — the moment his perfect, sinless blood would be presented in the heavenly throne room, making a way for all who believe to be counted righteous before God.</p>

<p>“He was working through a process so glorious that the enemy didn’t know,” the speaker said, referencing 1 Corinthians 2. “Or they would have never crucified him.”</p>

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<h2 id="communion-as-remembrance">Communion as Remembrance</h2>

<p>The service concluded with communion. The speaker invited the congregation to receive the bread and cup not as mere ritual, but as a deliberate act of spiritual remembrance — to “remember, not forget” what Christ accomplished.</p>

<p>“Almost so much of what we face in this life is just an attempt by spiritual forces to distract us from what Jesus has done, and to distract us from the fact that it is enough,” he said.</p>

<p>He closed with a pastoral invitation — simple and direct — for anyone in the room who had not yet received Christ to do so, comparing it to a handshake and a spoken word: <em>“When you confess with your mouth and believe in your heart, you are born back to life from the dead.”</em></p>

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<h2 id="my-takeaway">My Takeaway</h2>

<p>Of all the threads running through this morning’s message, the one that hit me hardest was the challenge to our pride — specifically, how easy it is to believe in ourselves and give ourselves the credit for the outcomes we produce.</p>

<p>The pastor pressed on this in a way that genuinely made me stop and think. It’s so easy to look at a skill developed, a goal achieved, or a problem solved and quietly take ownership of it. But the truth is, God has given me the abilities, the skills, and — honestly — even the motivation to produce the outcomes I’m most proud of. To overlook that and absorb the credit myself isn’t ambition. It’s pride wearing ambition’s clothes.</p>

<p>This sermon was a good reminder to pause, look up — like Jesus did in John 17 — and give the glory where it actually belongs. Not as a religious formality, but as an honest acknowledgment of what is actually true. God is the source. I’m just the vessel.</p>

<p>That’s a posture I want to carry into the week.</p>

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<h2 id="about-kings-fire-church">About King’s Fire Church</h2>

<p>King’s Fire Church is led by Pastors Joshua and Elaine Ortman and meets at 865 Neighborhood Rd., Lake Katrine, NY 12449. Sunday services are streamed live on their Facebook page at 9 AM and 11 AM. The church also operates the Bread of Life Food Pantry, open every Sunday from 12:30–2 PM and on the 1st and 3rd Fridays of each month.</p>

<ul>
  <li><strong>Facebook:</strong> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kingsfirechurch">facebook.com/kingsfirechurch</a></li>
  <li><strong>Instagram:</strong> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/kingsfirechurch/">@kingsfirechurch</a></li>
  <li><strong>Podcast:</strong> <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kings-fire-church/id678735738">Apple Podcasts — King’s Fire Church</a></li>
  <li><strong>Email:</strong> <a href="mailto:office@kingsfire.org">office@kingsfire.org</a></li>
  <li><strong>Phone:</strong> 844-546-4734</li>
</ul>

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<p><a href="https://dextermiller.com">Have something to say? Reach out at dextermiller.com →</a></p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="faith" /><category term="sermon" /><category term="church" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[On a Memorial Day weekend Sunday, King’s Fire Church gathered for worship and a communion service centered on one of Christianity’s most countercultural claims: that true life is found not through self-reliance, but through surrender.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Don’t Run. Embrace It. Call His Name.</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/17/dont-run-embrace-it-call-his-name/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Don’t Run. Embrace It. Call His Name." /><published>2026-05-17T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-17T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/17/dont-run-embrace-it-call-his-name</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/17/dont-run-embrace-it-call-his-name/"><![CDATA[<p>The summer series hadn’t even officially started yet, but you could feel the momentum in the room. Pastor Rob opened by mentioning a citywide worship night earlier in the week — dozens of churches, hundreds of people, all gathered together as one body. Then a Wednesday night service right there at First Assembly, altars full, teenagers down front praying alongside families. It had been one of those weeks where the church felt like the church.</p>

<p>That energy carried into Sunday morning.</p>

<p>“I want to see the church be the church,” he said simply. “Because that’s what Jesus is coming for. His plan to save the world is through us.”</p>

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<h2 id="a-story-that-starts-in-tragedy">A Story That Starts in Tragedy</h2>

<p>For the next several weeks, First Assembly is working through the book of Ruth — all four chapters, 84 verses, a story Pastor Rob described as one that “starts off tragic but ends up beautiful.”</p>

<p>He issued a challenge before diving in: read the whole book this week as part of your devotional time. Ten to twelve minutes, he said. That’s all it takes.</p>

<p>Ruth is one of only two books in the Bible named after a woman. But what makes her story remarkable isn’t just her gender — it’s that she’s a Gentile. A Moabite. And yet the Jewish community preserved her story in their scriptures. More than that, her name appears in Matthew chapter one, in the genealogy of Jesus himself.</p>

<p>Her choice to stay loyal to her mother-in-law Naomi, Pastor Rob pointed out, brought her into the lineage of the Messiah. An unexpected ancestry. A story that no one could have scripted.</p>

<p>Before introducing Ruth, though, he introduced the man whose decisions set everything in motion.</p>

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<h2 id="elimelechs-choice">Elimelech’s Choice</h2>

<p>The book opens in the time of the judges — a roughly 400-year period in Israel’s history marked by a familiar cycle: follow God, drift away, face consequences, return, repeat. Judges 17:6 captures the era bluntly: <em>In those days Israel had no king. Everyone did whatever seemed right in their own eyes.</em></p>

<p>Into this backdrop steps a man named Elimelech — a name that means <em>God is king</em> — living in Bethlehem with his wife Naomi (<em>pleasant</em>) and their two sons, Mahlon (<em>sickly</em>) and Chilion (<em>weak, tired</em>). A famine has hit the land hard. The shelves are empty. The bellies are empty. And Elimelech makes a decision.</p>

<p>He takes his family and leaves.</p>

<p>He packs them up, hikes them through the desolate Judean wilderness, crosses the Jordan River, and settles in Moab — the very land God had delivered his ancestors from. He’s not just moving. He’s backtracking. Trading the Promised Land for something that feels safer in the moment.</p>

<p>Pastor Rob was careful not to pile on the man. “I have a hard time faulting the guy for going to where there was food,” he said. “Your boys are named Sickly and Tired. You see them without food. What do you do?”</p>

<p>But the problem wasn’t the desperation. It was the direction. Elimelech never sought God on the decision. He took matters into his own hands, left the place of promise, and walked his family into even deeper trouble. Elimelech dies in Moab. His sons marry Moabite women — against God’s explicit instruction. Then both sons die too.</p>

<p>Naomi is left alone. A widow in a foreign land, with no husband, no sons, no stability, no way forward. The lowest of the low.</p>

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<h2 id="three-things-to-hold-onto">Three Things to Hold Onto</h2>

<p>From Naomi’s wreckage, Pastor Rob drew out three responses for trusting God when life falls apart.</p>

<p><strong>Don’t run away.</strong> It sounds simple, but the impulse to escape is nearly universal. People run from jobs when they feel undervalued. They run from marriages when expectations go unmet. They run from churches over relational drama. Some run physically, some emotionally, some spiritually. Some cut away everything that once gave them stability in exchange for temporary relief.</p>

<p>“Christian, we don’t run unless we run to God.”</p>

<p>He pointed to Esther, who didn’t run when her people were facing annihilation. She called a three-day fast and leaned into God — and an entire nation was delivered. He pointed to Job, who lost everything in a single day and still said, <em>The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord.</em> Job stayed the course. He kept the faith. And he saw the blessing.</p>

<p><strong>Embrace the pain.</strong> This one’s harder. The instinct is to fix, avoid, or escape. But Pastor Rob pushed back on that instinct. Elimelech’s family moved to a new place and found the same problems waiting for them. A change of environment doesn’t promise a change of situation.</p>

<p>He quoted Spurgeon: “I’ve learned to kiss the wave that throws me against the Rock of Ages.” Not lean into another trap. Not fall into something else. Lean into God and let him do what only he can do.</p>

<p>And then Paul’s words from 2 Corinthians 4:17: <em>For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.</em> The sting of the pain, Pastor Rob said, gets removed when we hold it up against that truth. This too shall pass. There is something on the other side.</p>

<p><strong>Call on Jesus.</strong> He saved the most direct point for last. Three psalms from David — 18:6, 34:4, 118:5 — all circling the same truth: cry out, and he hears. He answers. He sets free.</p>

<p>Then he told a story about a friend’s wife named Tamara, who had been attacked by her own dogs in the backyard — knocked to the ground, fighting off two large animals, biting and scratching and overwhelming her. Her husband David was upstairs, oblivious, until she stopped screaming at the dogs and screamed one word: <em>David.</em></p>

<p>That name cut through everything. He came running.</p>

<p>“She called the name she needed to call,” Pastor Rob said. “If she had called anyone else’s name, David wouldn’t have heard it. He couldn’t have helped.”</p>

<p>He let the parallel land on its own.</p>

<p>Blind Bartimaeus didn’t politely ask the crowd to step aside. He called out — loudly, persistently — <em>Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me.</em> The ten lepers called out from a distance. Peter, sinking in the water, cried out. Every one of them called the right name. And every one of them received.</p>

<p>“There was a name given to humanity to help us,” he said. “And it is Jesus.”</p>

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<h2 id="the-last-chapter-isnt-written-yet">The Last Chapter Isn’t Written Yet</h2>

<p>Pastor Rob closed the morning with a reminder that cut through any tidy resolution.</p>

<p>“At some point, life is going to break down again for you. It does for all of us.”</p>

<p>But when it does — when the famine hits, when the losses stack up, when you find yourself in a foreign land with nothing — God is still writing a redemptive story. The book of Ruth opens in tragedy and ends in beauty. Naomi goes from empty to full. Ruth goes from outsider to ancestor of the Messiah.</p>

<p>“Your story is not over,” he said. “The last chapter has not been written.”</p>

<p>Don’t run. Embrace the pain. Call on Jesus.</p>

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<h2 id="a-few-of-my-own-thoughts">A Few of My Own Thoughts</h2>

<p>Life is pretty good right now — but busy. Three kids, work, board commitments — it all adds up. And if I’m honest, the easiest thing to do when the pressure builds is to reach for my phone and scroll instead of actually sitting with what’s going on.</p>

<p>That’s my version of running, I think. Not dramatic, not obvious, but it’s still avoidance.</p>

<p>This sermon was a good reminder that the answer isn’t a change of scenery or a distraction. It’s leaning in. Calling on the right name. I’m trying to be more intentional about that — writing things down, being thoughtful, building habits that actually help me process instead of just escape. This blog is part of that. My own little space to be honest with myself without an algorithm pushing back.</p>

<p>No big revelations. Just a good Sunday.</p>

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<p><em>First Assembly meets weekly in the Fort Wayne area.</em></p>

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  <li><a href="https://fafw.org">First Assembly Fort Wayne →</a></li>
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<p><a href="https://dextermiller.com">Have something to say? Reach out at dextermiller.com →</a></p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="faith" /><category term="sermon" /><category term="church" /><category term="trust" /><category term="hardship" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[The summer series hadn’t even officially started yet, but you could feel the momentum in the room. Pastor Rob opened by mentioning a citywide worship night earlier in the week — dozens of churches, hundreds of people, all gathered together as one body. Then a Wednesday night service right there at First Assembly, altars full, teenagers down front praying alongside families. It had been one of those weeks where the church felt like the church.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Why I’m Building PrayerShare as a Web App First</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/15/why-im-building-prayershare-as-a-web-app-first/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Why I’m Building PrayerShare as a Web App First" /><published>2026-05-15T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-15T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/15/why-im-building-prayershare-as-a-web-app-first</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/15/why-im-building-prayershare-as-a-web-app-first/"><![CDATA[<p><em>A quick update on where things are at</em></p>

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<p>I’ve been sitting on the PrayerShare project for a while now. And honestly, part of the reason it hasn’t moved as fast as I wanted is that I got stuck on something kind of dumb — I was convinced I needed to build it as an iOS app first.</p>

<p>That made sense in my head. PrayerShare is the kind of thing that <em>should</em> live on your phone. It’s personal, it’s quiet, it’s the kind of app you open during a moment of stillness. An iPhone app just <em>felt</em> right. So I kept putting it off because I didn’t have the right setup, didn’t have a MacBook, and Swift development wasn’t something I could just jump into from anywhere.</p>

<p>So it stalled.</p>

<h2 id="the-pivot-i-should-have-made-earlier">The Pivot I Should Have Made Earlier</h2>

<p>Here’s what I’ve been learning: almost every app starts as a web app anyway. Whether you’re using a platform like <a href="https://median.co">Median.co</a> to wrap your web content into a native iOS and Android shell, or you’re eventually going full native — you need the web layer first. The logic, the interface, the experience. That has to exist before anything else does.</p>

<p>Median.co kind of made this click for me. It’s a platform that takes your existing web app and converts it into a real native app. And when I realized that’s how it works — that the web app isn’t a lesser version of the thing, it <em>is</em> the foundation — it changed how I was thinking about the whole project.</p>

<p>I don’t have to choose between web and iOS. I build the web app well, and the path to iOS opens up from there. That’s just the logical starting point.</p>

<h2 id="getting-the-feel-right">Getting the Feel Right</h2>

<p>The other piece I’ve been thinking through is design. PrayerShare isn’t supposed to feel like a productivity tool. It’s not supposed to feel like social media. It needs to feel calm. Grounded. Like a space you actually want to open when you’re trying to be still and pray.</p>

<p>I’ve been using Design.md to work through that — specifically their questionnaire process, which helps you define the emotional vibe of an app before you start making visual decisions. That’s been genuinely helpful. Instead of just picking colors and fonts and hoping they feel peaceful, you’re actually reasoning through what the experience should feel like and working backward from there.</p>

<h2 id="where-things-are-headed">Where Things Are Headed</h2>

<p>So that’s where I’m at. PrayerShare is moving forward, starting with the web app. The design is going to be thoughtful and intentional — built around calm, not chaos. And once the web version is solid, Median is one option for getting it onto the App Store without having to rebuild everything in Swift.</p>

<p>I’ll keep updating here as it progresses. Nothing too polished — just where things are and what I’m learning along the way.</p>

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<p><em>More on the PrayerShare project as it develops.</em></p>]]></content><author><name>Dexter Miller</name></author><category term="product" /><category term="prayershare" /><category term="web development" /><category term="app development" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[A quick update on where things are at]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Trying to Figure Out Design (And Mostly Failing, But Learning)</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/12/trying-to-figure-out-design/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Trying to Figure Out Design (And Mostly Failing, But Learning)" /><published>2026-05-12T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-12T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/12/trying-to-figure-out-design</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/12/trying-to-figure-out-design/"><![CDATA[<p>So I’ve been poking around something called Material Design lately. It’s Google’s design system — basically a set of guidelines for making things look and feel good. I found it because I’ve been building websites for small businesses, and honestly, some of them don’t look as polished as I’d like. I figured there had to be a more systematic way to approach this instead of just winging it every time.</p>

<p>The thing is, I’m not a designer. I can look at something and know it looks bad, but I don’t always know why, or more importantly, how to fix it. That gap between “this looks unprofessional” and “this looks really good” has always felt like a mystery to me. Like, is it just a talent some people are born with? Is it something you learn? I genuinely didn’t know.</p>

<h2 id="the-discovery-question-nobody-told-me-about">The Discovery Question Nobody Told Me About</h2>

<p>One thing I’m starting to understand is that good design doesn’t just happen in the tools — it starts with really understanding the company you’re building for. Before you even pick a color or a font, you have to do what designers call “discovery.” Ask the client things like: What problem do you solve? Who is your ideal customer? How do you want people to feel when they land on your site? What makes you different from your competitors?</p>

<p>I never really thought about this before. I’d just kind of start building. But those questions actually matter a lot, because the answers tell you what the design should feel like. A pediatric dentist and a CrossFit gym are both small businesses, but they should absolutely not look the same.</p>

<h2 id="colors-are-not-random-who-knew">Colors Are Not Random (Who Knew)</h2>

<p>Colors actually mean things. Not in a mystical way, but in a psychological way — people have consistent emotional responses to colors, and that’s been studied and documented. Blues feel trustworthy and calm. Reds feel urgent and energetic. Greens feel natural and healthy. Warm oranges and yellows feel friendly and approachable.</p>

<p>So if you’ve done your discovery questions and you know a company is all about energy and intensity — like that CrossFit gym — then bold reds, oranges, and blacks actually make sense. They reinforce the brand personality. But if someone runs a wellness studio focused on calm and healing, you’d lean toward soft greens and muted blues. The colors aren’t decoration. They’re communication.</p>

<p>I’d always kind of picked colors based on what I liked or what seemed okay. Turns out there’s a whole logic to it that I was completely skipping.</p>

<h2 id="material-design-as-a-framework-not-a-straitjacket">Material Design as a Framework, Not a Straitjacket</h2>

<p>This is where Material Design comes in. Once you know who a company is and what colors and tone match their identity, Material Design gives you the system to apply it all consistently. It has pre-built components — buttons, cards, navigation elements — and rules for spacing, typography, and layout. You customize it with the brand’s colors and fonts, and suddenly everything looks intentional and cohesive instead of just… thrown together.</p>

<p>Think of it kind of like a recipe framework. Material Design is the base recipe. The brand identity is the flavor profile. And the design system you create for that specific client is the written-out recipe so every page tastes consistent.</p>

<h2 id="i-still-have-a-lot-to-learn">I Still Have a Lot to Learn</h2>

<p>I’m not going to pretend I’ve got this figured out. Honestly, this is all still pretty new territory for me, and I know the best way to actually learn it is to just do it — pick a client, go through the discovery questions for real, make some choices, and build something. See what works and what doesn’t.</p>

<p>But I feel like I finally have a starting point that makes sense. Instead of staring at a blank canvas wondering why it looks bad, I now have a process: understand the company, translate their identity into visual choices, apply a consistent system. It’s not magic — it’s just a workflow that takes some time.</p>

<p>More to come as I experiment. Hopefully the next site I build looks a lot better than the last one.</p>]]></content><author><name>Dexter Miller</name></author><category term="design" /><category term="web development" /><category term="learning" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[So I’ve been poking around something called Material Design lately. It’s Google’s design system — basically a set of guidelines for making things look and feel good. I found it because I’ve been building websites for small businesses, and honestly, some of them don’t look as polished as I’d like. I figured there had to be a more systematic way to approach this instead of just winging it every time.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">‘Step Into Wonder, Stand in Awe’</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/10/step-into-wonder-stand-in-awe/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="‘Step Into Wonder, Stand in Awe’" /><published>2026-05-10T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-10T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/10/step-into-wonder-stand-in-awe</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/10/step-into-wonder-stand-in-awe/"><![CDATA[<p>The sanctuary at First Assembly was still settling into its Sunday morning rhythm when the pastor Rhonda Haslett walked to the front with something unusual in hand — small sachets of candy, one for every woman in the room.</p>

<p>“Even if you’re not a mom,” she said, “these are for you.”</p>

<p>It was Mother’s Day weekend, and the gesture was deliberate. But the candy wasn’t the point. Inside each sachet was a small slip of paper with a scripture on it — personally chosen, she told the congregation, through prayer.</p>

<p>“I’m praying right now that whatever scripture is in there is the one the Lord needed you to have.”</p>

<p>It was the kind of moment that set the tone for everything that followed.</p>

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<h2 id="a-challenge-before-the-message-even-began">A Challenge Before the Message Even Began</h2>

<p>Before opening her Bible, the pastor issued a challenge to everyone in the room.</p>

<p>She had been running a Bible study on the miracles of God, and toward the end of the semester she asked the women to do something simple but surprisingly difficult: write down one miracle they wanted to see God work in their life. Not a vague hope. A specific, named thing — something that, if it happened, could only be explained as God.</p>

<p>“If something changed today and it was clearly a miracle, do you know what that would be?” she asked, scanning the room.</p>

<p>She said she wrote down two of her own that night. One, she’s still waiting on. The other was answered the very next day.</p>

<p>She invited everyone — men and women alike — to pull out a piece of paper before the end of the service and do the same.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="into-the-story-luke-73650">Into the Story: Luke 7:36–50</h2>

<p>The message was drawn from Luke chapter 7, and the pastor asked the congregation to do something preachers don’t always ask: <em>imagine yourself inside the story.</em></p>

<p>The scene is a dinner party. A Pharisee named Simon has invited Jesus to his home — a notable enough occasion that, by the customs of the day, anyone from town could come and listen in. And someone does.</p>

<p>A woman described only as “a sinner” — likely a prostitute, the pastor noted plainly — hears that Jesus is there and shows up. She brings an alabaster jar of expensive perfume. She stands behind Jesus, weeping, and begins washing his feet with her tears, wiping them with her hair, kissing them, and anointing them with the perfume.</p>

<p>“Can you see it?” the pastor asked the room. “Can you feel it? Maybe you’re in the room watching this happen, and you yourself are feeling uncomfortable.”</p>

<p>Simon the Pharisee certainly was. He said nothing out loud, but his thoughts were recorded in the text: <em>If this man were really a prophet, he’d know what kind of woman is touching him.</em></p>

<p>Jesus, of course, knew exactly what Simon was thinking. He turned to him and told a story.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="two-debtors-and-a-question">Two Debtors and a Question</h2>

<p>Two people owed money to the same lender. One owed the equivalent of about 500 days’ wages. The other owed 50. Neither could pay. The lender forgave both debts entirely.</p>

<p>“Which one,” Jesus asked Simon, “will love him more?”</p>

<p>Simon answered carefully: the one who was forgiven more.</p>

<p><em>You have decided correctly</em>, Jesus told him.</p>

<p>Then he turned toward the woman — still at his feet — and spoke directly to Simon about the contrast between them. Simon had offered Jesus no water for his feet, no welcoming kiss, no oil for his head. Every gesture of basic hospitality that the culture expected of a host had been withheld.</p>

<p>The woman had offered all of it, and more.</p>

<p>The pastor paused here to walk the congregation through the cultural weight of each detail. Water for the feet wasn’t just politeness — it was a practical kindness on dusty, dirty roads. The oil was a sign of honor and refreshment. The kiss, a sign of welcome and respect.</p>

<p>“Their absence shows us that the Pharisees had a coldness toward Jesus,” she said. “They did not recognize his worth.”</p>

<p>The woman recognized it completely. And she demonstrated it before Jesus said a single word to her.</p>

<p>“She poured everything out as an act of worship,” the pastor said, “before he did anything for her.”</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="holy-fear-the-heart-of-the-message">Holy Fear: The Heart of the Message</h2>

<p>This contrast — between the casual Pharisees and the desperate, reverent woman — became the theological center of the morning.</p>

<p>The pastor introduced a concept she called <em>holy fear</em>, drawing from Psalm 89:7 and Hebrews 12:28–29, and referencing John Bevere’s book <em>The Awe of God</em> as a resource for anyone who wanted to go deeper.</p>

<p>Holy fear, she was careful to explain, is not the cowering kind. It’s not about being scared of God.</p>

<p>“Holy fear means I’m curious. I see what’s possible. I lean in out of respect for what can be.”</p>

<p>It’s the posture that asks: <em>What are you capable of, Lord?</em> It’s the kind of reverence that shows up hungry, not just out of habit. It’s what the woman in Luke 7 embodied — and what the Pharisees, for all their religious credentials, completely missed.</p>

<p>“With no reverence or holy fear for God,” the pastor told the congregation, “we will miss moments of awe with him.”</p>

<p>She pressed the point personally. “How is your wonder? When you show up where Jesus is, how is your reverence? Are you more like the Pharisees — casual? Or are you more like the woman — reverent, humble, hungry, desperate for something to happen?”</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="the-moment-everything-changed">The Moment Everything Changed</h2>

<p>Back in the text, Jesus finished his comparison and turned to the woman.</p>

<p>“Her sins, which are many, are forgiven — for she loved much.”</p>

<p>Then, directly to her: <em>“Your faith has saved you. Go in peace.”</em></p>

<p>The people reclining at the table murmured among themselves. <em>Who is this, who even forgives sins?</em></p>

<p>The pastor let the weight of the moment land.</p>

<p>“In that moment, I don’t know which I’d be more in awe of,” she said. “The statement that Jesus is making — that he is equal to God and can take away sins — or the fact that this woman, this sinful woman, was bold enough to throw herself at his feet because of the weight of what she’d done.”</p>

<p>For the woman, those words changed everything. Her dignity in the community, restored. Her eternity, secured. The weight she had carried into that room — gone.</p>

<p>“He is still the same Jesus today,” the pastor said, “who lifts the weight of our sins, who lifts the burdens of things we don’t have control over.”</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="two-statements-to-take-home">Two Statements to Take Home</h2>

<p>The pastor closed with two lines she said the Lord had placed on her heart specifically for this message.</p>

<p>The first: <em>“If you are willing to step into wonder, I will leave you standing in awe.”</em></p>

<p>The second: <em>“When we lose the wonder of God, we are more prone to wander from God.”</em></p>

<p>She let that second one sit in the air for a moment.</p>

<p>Casual faith, she suggested, is more dangerous than it looks. It doesn’t feel like rebellion. It just feels like drift. And drift, over time, is how people end up in the same seats every Sunday without really expecting God to do anything at all.</p>

<p>The invitation she extended was simple. Come like the woman, not like the Pharisees. Come with wonder. Come hungry. Come desperate if you have to.</p>

<p>“He is able to do immeasurably more than you could ever think or imagine,” she said. “He is the miracle-working Lord of all.”</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="the-altar-call">The Altar Call</h2>

<p>The service ended with two responses offered to the room.</p>

<p>The first was for anyone who had never asked Jesus to forgive their sins — or who had wandered away and lost their sense of awe. Hands went up across the sanctuary. The congregation prayed together, out loud, a simple prayer of surrender.</p>

<p>The second response was for the miracles.</p>

<p>The pastor invited anyone who wanted prayer for the specific miracle they had written down to come forward. People moved toward the front. Prayer teams met them there.</p>

<p>For some in that room, she said, the miracle would come the next day. For others it might come in an unexpected form. And for some, she acknowledged honestly, the miracle God wants to do first might be in <em>them</em> — not in the situation they’re praying about.</p>

<p>“But we’re not going to give up wonder,” she said. “Because we’re waiting and believing that we will stand in awe.”</p>

<hr />

<p><em>First Assembly meets weekly in the Fort Wayne area. If you were there Sunday and want to connect, or if this story resonated with you, feel free to reach out.</em></p>

<ul>
  <li><a href="https://fafw.org">First Assembly Fort Wayne →</a></li>
  <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/firstassemblyfortwayne">First Assembly on Facebook →</a></li>
  <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/firstassemblyfw">First Assembly on Instagram →</a></li>
</ul>

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<p><a href="https://dextermiller.com">Have something to say? Reach out at dextermiller.com →</a></p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="faith" /><category term="sermon" /><category term="church" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[The sanctuary at First Assembly was still settling into its Sunday morning rhythm when the pastor Rhonda Haslett walked to the front with something unusual in hand — small sachets of candy, one for every woman in the room.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">From Pen and Paper to PrayerShare: An App Idea Born from a Real Problem</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/08/from-pen-and-paper-to-prayershare/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="From Pen and Paper to PrayerShare: An App Idea Born from a Real Problem" /><published>2026-05-08T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-08T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/08/from-pen-and-paper-to-prayershare</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/08/from-pen-and-paper-to-prayershare/"><![CDATA[<p>I’ve been keeping a prayer list for a while now. It started simple — a few names, a few requests, pen and paper. But somewhere along the way, the list kept growing. Now I’m managing fifteen requests at a time, sometimes more. Some of those prayers have been answered. Some are ongoing. And when I want to pray <em>with</em> someone else? I’m either texting them a photo of my handwritten notes or retyping everything from scratch.</p>

<p>There had to be a better way.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="the-problem-no-one-has-really-solved">The Problem No One Has Really Solved</h2>

<p>There are plenty of Bible apps out there. Reading plans, devotionals, verse-of-the-day — you name it. But a clean, dedicated app for managing and sharing prayer requests? I haven’t found one that really nails it.</p>

<p>Most apps try to do too much. They bolt prayer onto a broader faith platform and it gets buried. What I want is something focused. Something that does one thing really well: <strong>help people pray together, stay organized, and see God work.</strong></p>

<p>That idea is what I’m calling <strong>PrayerShare</strong>.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="what-prayershare-would-look-like">What PrayerShare Would Look Like</h2>

<p>Here’s what I’m imagining:</p>

<p><strong>A personal prayer list that grows with you.</strong> You add requests, organize them, and as prayers get answered, you mark them. Over time, you build a documented history of your prayer life — not just requests floating in a void, but a record of what was asked and what was answered.</p>

<p><strong>Shared lists with permissions.</strong> Think of it like a Google Doc for prayer. You can invite others to view your list or contribute to it. A small group leader could share a list with their group. A family could keep a running list together. You control who sees what and who can add.</p>

<p><strong>A “Prayed For” button.</strong> Across all requests, there’s a simple button: <em>I prayed for this.</em> Anonymous by default. But over time, a request can show that it’s been prayed for dozens of times. That kind of visibility matters — it’s encouraging to know you’re not praying alone.</p>

<p><strong>A community prayer board.</strong> Think of a physical prayer box in the back of a church — those little slips of paper people drop in anonymously. PrayerShare could digitize that. Anyone on the platform could post a request for the broader community to pray over. Strangers interceding for strangers. That’s something.</p>

<p><strong>Answered prayer notifications.</strong> Here’s the part I find really compelling: if you prayed for someone’s request and they later mark it as answered, you get notified. <em>The prayer you prayed for has been answered.</em> That feedback loop — knowing your prayers made a difference — could be really powerful for keeping people engaged and encouraged.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="whats-holding-me-back">What’s Holding Me Back</h2>

<p>Honestly? Time and technical know-how.</p>

<p>I’m not an iOS developer. Building an app requires a Mac, an Apple Developer account (which runs about $99/year), and a learning curve I haven’t had the bandwidth to tackle yet. The idea is clear in my head. The execution is another story.</p>

<p>On top of that, running an app isn’t free. Servers, storage, push notifications — it all adds up. My plan would be to start with a simple donation model to cover costs, and eventually move to something like a small subscription if it needs to scale.</p>

<hr />

<h2 id="why-im-sharing-this">Why I’m Sharing This</h2>

<p>I’m writing this because the idea feels real to me, and I think there are people who would actually use it. If you’ve ever kept a prayer list and wished it were easier to manage — or if you’ve ever wanted to pray <em>with</em> someone without the friction of copying lists back and forth — PrayerShare is for you.</p>

<p>I don’t know exactly when this gets built. But I know the problem is real. And sometimes that’s where every good app starts.</p>

<hr />

<p><em>If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you. What features would matter most to you in an app like this?</em></p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="faith" /><category term="product" /><category term="ideas" /><category term="prayershare" /><category term="prayer" /><category term="app development" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[I’ve been keeping a prayer list for a while now. It started simple — a few names, a few requests, pen and paper. But somewhere along the way, the list kept growing. Now I’m managing fifteen requests at a time, sometimes more. Some of those prayers have been answered. Some are ongoing. And when I want to pray with someone else? I’m either texting them a photo of my handwritten notes or retyping everything from scratch.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Hello World</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/hello-world/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Hello World" /><published>2026-05-06T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-06T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/hello-world</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/hello-world/"><![CDATA[<p>Welcome to my blog. More to come on tech, faith, and fitness.</p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="personal" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[Welcome to my blog. More to come on tech, faith, and fitness.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Welcome to the Blog</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/welcome-to-the-blog/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Welcome to the Blog" /><published>2026-05-06T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-05-06T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/welcome-to-the-blog</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/05/06/welcome-to-the-blog/"><![CDATA[<p>I’ve been meaning to start a blog for a while.</p>

<p>Not because I think I have all the answers. Honestly, the opposite — I’m in the middle of figuring a lot of things out, and writing can help me think more clearly.</p>

<p>I’m Dexter. I build websites for local businesses here in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and I’m working on a handful of my own digital products on the side. The day-to-day is a mix of IT work, code, design decisions, and my fitness tracker telling me to get more sleep.</p>

<h2 id="what-ill-write-about">What I’ll Write About</h2>

<p>A few things I keep coming back to:</p>

<p><strong>Building for local businesses.</strong> Most of my clients run a service — lawn care, barbershops, auto shops. They’re great at what they do and terrible at being found online. I want to write about what actually works for small businesses, without the generic advice that fills most marketing blogs.</p>

<p><strong>Product development.</strong> I’m building <a href="https://github.com/dextercarlmiller/fortwaynebusinesses.com">Fort Wayne Businesses</a>, a local business directory. I own the domain, so I figure might as well do something with it. I’ll share what goes wrong, what goes right, and the decisions behind them.</p>

<p><strong>The Fort Wayne angle.</strong> I care about this city. I think there’s more opportunity here than most people realize, and I want to write about building something meaningful in a mid-sized Midwest city — not Silicon Valley, not a major metro.</p>

<p><strong>Honest technical stuff.</strong> I’m not going to write “10 JavaScript tips you won’t believe” posts. But when I learn something genuinely useful — a pattern, a mistake, a tool — I’ll write it up.</p>

<p><strong>Faith and Spirituallity</strong> I tend to go to church Sunday. I often digest a lot of good sermons but don’t do anything with what I’m thinking about. This will be a place to formalize some thoughts.</p>

<h2 id="why-now">Why Now</h2>

<p>Partly because I finally set up this blog (you’re reading it), and partly because I feel like I’m at an interesting inflection point. AI makes the whole process easier. I’m starting to build website. The software solutions are getting real. I want to document this chapter while I’m in it.</p>

<p>No promises on frequency. But I’m going to write when I have something worth saying.</p>

<p>Thanks for being here.</p>

<p>— Dexter</p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="personal" /><category term="fort-wayne" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[I’ve been meaning to start a blog for a while.]]></summary></entry><entry><title type="html">Why Every Local Business Needs a Website (And It’s Not What You Think)</title><link href="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/04/15/why-every-local-business-needs-a-website/" rel="alternate" type="text/html" title="Why Every Local Business Needs a Website (And It’s Not What You Think)" /><published>2026-04-15T00:00:00+00:00</published><updated>2026-04-15T00:00:00+00:00</updated><id>https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/04/15/why-every-local-business-needs-a-website</id><content type="html" xml:base="https://blog.dextermiller.com/2026/04/15/why-every-local-business-needs-a-website/"><![CDATA[<p>I hear the same objections all the time when I’m pitching a new client.</p>

<p><em>“I get all my customers from word of mouth.”</em>
<em>“I already have a Facebook page.”</em>
<em>“Websites are expensive and I don’t see the ROI.”</em></p>

<p>These are all reasonable things to say. And they’re all missing the point.</p>

<h2 id="the-real-job-of-a-website">The Real Job of a Website</h2>

<p>A website isn’t just a digital flyer. It’s not mainly about ranking on Google (though that matters). The most important job a website does is answer one question that every potential customer has before they call you:</p>

<p><strong>Are you legit?</strong></p>

<p>Think about the last time you looked up a local business. You probably found a name somewhere — on a yard sign, a truck, a friend’s recommendation. Then what did you do? You Googled them. And one of three things happened:</p>

<ol>
  <li>You found a clean, professional website and felt good about calling.</li>
  <li>You found a basic website that looked outdated, and hesitated.</li>
  <li>You found nothing, and called their competitor instead.</li>
</ol>

<p>That third scenario is costing local businesses more than they realize.</p>

<h2 id="what-no-website-signals">What “No Website” Signals</h2>

<p>When there’s no website, customers fill in the gap with their imagination — and imaginations tend toward the negative when money is on the line.</p>

<p><em>Are they still in business? Are they professional? What do other customers think? Can I trust this person in my home?</em></p>

<p>A website doesn’t answer all those questions perfectly, but it answers the foundational one: yes, this is a real business that takes itself seriously.</p>

<h2 id="the-facebook-page-problem">The Facebook Page Problem</h2>

<p>A Facebook page is better than nothing, but it’s not a substitute for a website, for a few reasons:</p>

<ul>
  <li><strong>You don’t own it.</strong> Facebook can change its algorithm, reduce organic reach, or suspend your page. Your website is yours.</li>
  <li><strong>Not everyone is on Facebook.</strong> A surprising number of higher-income homeowners — the people hiring lawn crews and contractors — have reduced their Facebook use or aren’t there at all.</li>
  <li><strong>It looks like you couldn’t be bothered.</strong> A Facebook page as your primary web presence signals that you haven’t invested in the business. A real website signals you have.</li>
</ul>

<h2 id="what-a-good-website-actually-costs">What a Good Website Actually Costs</h2>

<p>Here’s where I’ll be direct: a professional website for a local service business shouldn’t cost $10,000. That’s what large agencies charge for complexity you don’t need.</p>

<p>A great local business site has five things:</p>
<ol>
  <li>Who you are and what you do (clear, above the fold)</li>
  <li>Where you serve (Fort Wayne? Northwest Indiana? Be specific)</li>
  <li>Social proof (reviews, photos of real work, client logos)</li>
  <li>A clear way to contact you or get a quote</li>
  <li>A mobile-friendly design</li>
</ol>

<p>That’s it. No gimmicks, no animations, no complicated CMS. Clean, fast, and honest.</p>

<h2 id="the-compound-effect">The Compound Effect</h2>

<p>Here’s the thing nobody talks about: a website gets better over time. Every Google review you collect, every service page you add, every photo of completed work you post — it compounds. A business with a two-year-old website that’s been kept up has a meaningful advantage over someone starting from scratch.</p>

<p>The best time to build a website is before you need it. The second best time is now.</p>

<hr />

<p>I built Fort Wayne Web Studio because I believe every local business deserves a real presence on the web. If you’re a Fort Wayne business owner reading this and you don’t have a website, let’s talk.</p>]]></content><author><name></name></author><category term="business" /><category term="web development" /><category term="local business" /><category term="fort-wayne" /><category term="marketing" /><summary type="html"><![CDATA[I hear the same objections all the time when I’m pitching a new client.]]></summary></entry></feed>